It’s the New Year and now that my wedding is less thank 6 months away I’m kicking things into high gear, and I kind of love it. I feel like I’ve stepped up and taken back control during a very demanding time, it’s empowering to say the least!
I am, for the first time, someone who saves addresses and plans things out by a time line. I actually think it will help me in other areas of my life. Hopefully these addresses will also be used over the years to write letters to those I care about, what a throw back, but how special do you feel when you get a handwritten letter letting you know someone cares? In fact, I’ve started writing my Fiance love letters, watching him read the first was priceless, I’m talking shit eating grin and he loved it so much I’m inspired to keep it up.
I’m getting excited sending out our save the dates because it’s making things more real, but also because I’m thinking of things like reuniting my grandma with her siblings after years apart, I’m going to see my Aunt who I adore for the first time in seven years since she moved across the country, I’m going to meet some of my Fiance’s family that I’ve never met before. It’s these things that make it special in my mind.
I’ve learned a few things so far that I want to share with other brides to be out there. I know there are a lot of you, especially right after the holidays! Congrats if you are new to the engaged world and don’t stress! I was so stressed in the beginning but after these 5 months I have realized there is no need because:
Wedding planning will be a series of starts and stops, you will do everything at once and nothing at all for awhile, but it will all get done.
Hiring a day of coordinator if your venue doesn’t have one will help you so much. I got this idea from a friend who didn’t have one and she was taken away from just being the bride a lot. She regrets it and wishes she had someone else the caterer or whoever could have gone to that understood her vision so she could have just enjoyed her special day. Our wedding coordinator is even helping get us quotes, doing our flowers at a discounted rate, helping us set up a Kodak photo booth, giving us tons of vases in all shapes and sizes to use free of charge, and helping us plan our honeymoon. Talk about an amazing service!
Also from the same friend (someone who shares my esthetic and has a similar personality) she recommends you go on a honeymoon right after. That’s right, don’t wait. You will need it, you will need the down time to unwind because weddings are a little crazy after all, especially if you are doing anything DIY. She recommended a place to rest versus an all out go-go-go type of honeymoon. I’m still deciding on the mix of this, but I totally get where she is coming from.
Venue is important. This took the most time for us. Only after we figured it out were we able to really set a budget, guest list, and everything else. This was by far the most stressful part of the process for me so I recommend you start there.
The most important tip of all, the reason I’m into the whole love letter thing- keep the romance alive! That’s right, make the other person know they are your priority much more so than fancy place settings and wedding colors. In the end it’s all about the two of you. We sure had our fair share of fights in the beginning figuring out budget, but let me be the first to say that they were not worth it. Keep up your dates, keep doing the little things you do that make the other person feel taken care of, and make a point to do non wedding related activities. At least once a week, make it a “no wedding talk” night. In the beginning it seemed to be all we talked about, but that will calm down over time.
At the end of the day, you will get to be married to that person who makes your heart soar, so whether you elope, or go to city hall, or have a million dollar affair, all that matters is the two of you. Enjoy it, let it be a reflection of you and try not to second guess yourself!