I was at the Integrative Nutrition Live Conference this past weekend and heard some amazing speakers. Mark Hyman MD was unbelievable as always. This was the third time I’ve seen him speak, I’ve read most of his books, and every time I learn something new. It’s incredible. He is a brilliant functional medicine physician who understands how to eliminate inflammation and help with sustainable weight loss like no one else. Dr. Oz was also there and he was awesome as expected! One of the most inspiring women I have even come across, Marie Forleo, shared her spot-on business advice. It’s funny actually, her husband was one of my acting teachers at NYU and when he was working she would come sub his class and teach us hip-hop and life lessons. She is one of the most amazing, intelligent, positive women out there, if you don’t know her yet, check out her site www.marieforleo.com and learn all about marketing and building your own personal brand.
Another speaker who I hadn’t heard before but really enjoyed was Keri Glassman RD. She taught a whole life approach to sustainable weight loss and weight management. During her talk she brought up a great point for engaged coupes to discuss as they embark on a life of health (hopefully) together. She said most couples usually talk about big issues before walking down the isle, things like how many kids they want, life ambitions, religion, (I discuss my own experience with this one here), finances etc. What is not often discussed is the type of food environment you want to have in your home.
Here are some questions for you to discuss with your partner to figure out how compatible you are…in the kitchen:
- How will you organize the refrigerator?
- Who will do the food shopping?
- Who will do the cooking?
- What types of foods do you both enjoy?
- Will you be breaking bread together daily or each doing your own thing?
- Will you pack lunch or buy?
- Do you share the same ideas on food? i.e. Do you want to spend money on organic? Local?
- Do you have different food philosophies? i.e. Are you a vegan and he does Paleo? If yes, will you cook separately?
- Do you want to join a CSA? A food coop?
- What are your favorite foods?
- How much are you willing to spend on your food each week?
- How often will you order take out?
- How often will you dine out?
- If you are an emotional eater, or if he is, are there certain foods you would rather not have around so you can avoid temptation?
- Do you have food allergies?
- Any food behaviors you want your partner to be aware of?
- What will change, if anything, when you have kids?
- What are your expectations with feeding your future children if you plan to have them?
I know this seems specific and maybe you have already worked out some of these questions, but this is really important to discuss, especially if you are a foodie like me and care about this stuff! This will help you come up with a plan that will leave both of you happy and will help you avoid unnecessary fights in the long run by managing expectations. If you don’t feel very food compatible after you go through these questions don’t fret! My Fiance and I didn’t share anything in common in regards to the foods we ate and our food behaviors when we first met. I was just starting my journey into the world of health and wellness and he was just beginning to open up to trying new things. We learned and grew together and shared what we learned along the way and now we love cooking together, eating together, experiencing new foods together, and both really care about the quality of the food we eat. Our shared passion for delicious healthy foods is so strong we are even having a local organic wedding because we want to expose family and friends to this type of food culture!
I’d love to hear from you and find out if this was helpful and if you learned anything about your “food compatibility” in the comments section below or on my Facebook page!
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